This is Difficult

This is a hard one.....  

You know dealing w/ psychosis induced harassment 6-9 hours per day:4-5 days a week, makes it most difficult for a normal healthy person to not "justify" the resentment they feel at the psychotic abuser/bully. Especially when the the abuse is allowed to continue and the abuser has been allowed to run rampant over a period of approximately 10 years.

How does one deal with the soul-crushing sadness? What will it take to have healing? What will it take for the victims to stand up & fight back? What will it take before it comes to an end?

I do my best to comprehend the "other side", I look for explanations, I search the A.P.A. Manual of Diagnosis.... I search the internet: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov, psychcentral.com
www.mentalhealth.com
www.webmd.com/mental-health,
www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus

But there are no guidelines on how to deal with the insanity nor how to not be affected by it.  That's what I need, not platitudes about being better by forgiving, ignoring.....

I want it over and the healing to be complete, without lasting scars and resentment at those who allowed and nurtured it.